Source: The Conversation – Canada – By Jenna Hepp, Assistant Professor, Adler University
Trying a new hobby for the first time can feel surprisingly intimidating. As adults, stepping into beginner territory often comes with discomfort, self-doubt and fear of judgment. Yet research suggests that pushing through this unease can be deeply rewarding, both mentally and emotionally.
Leisure activities and hobbies can improve well-being by increasing satisfaction. Beyond simple enjoyment, hobbies support psychological health by offering opportunities for emotional regulation, stress relief and by helping mitigate burnout and symptoms of depression.
Hobbies also foster social connectedness, through both community engagement and bonding with others through similar interests. Even when pursued alone, hobbies can promote a sense of accomplishment and autonomy, contributing to overall well-being.
Hobbies can bring joy, well-being, and focus to our busy lives, but so many of us don’t have one. If you’re ready to replace scrolling with stitching, or hustle with horticulture, The Hobby Starter Kit (a new series from Quarter Life) will help you get going.
Yet many adults often struggle to carve out space for hobbies because of lack of time, money and resources. Unlike childhood, adulthood comes with financial and time pressures, often when we feel like we’re already running on fumes.
Our modern work-centric society compounds this issue by teaching us that personal worth equates to productivity output, and that leisure is wasteful or lazy. This can leave us feeling guilty for spending time on hobbies, even though engaging in them supports the well-being that makes productivity possible.
Why adult hobbies can be hard to start
One of the main reasons why we avoid trying new things is fear — particularly fear of failure and fear of judgment. Everything is scary the first time, whether it’s a first date, the first time driving, the first college class, the first day of work or the first day at a new gym.
Firsts are scary because we can’t predict the outcome. The fear of the unknown can trigger anxiety and avoidance, which can make trying anything new feel overwhelming enough to not even try. This fear can convince us that not trying at all is better than being bad at something new.
Another layer comes from how adults perceive themselves socially. According to developmental psychology, young adulthood is a period focused on forming meaningful relationships and establishing a sense of belonging. Social acceptance becomes a priority, and new activities can make you feel vulnerable, triggering questions like: “Will they like me?” or “Will I perform to my best ability?”
For many, this fear of judgment can outweigh curiosity, making avoidance feel safer than experiencing something new, even though research suggests it’s precisely the discomfort that makes new experiences meaningful.
Why being a beginner is valuable
Despite the discomfort that comes with beginnerhood, research shows that trying new activities is associated with enhanced well-being, improved mental health, lower stress levels and personal growth.
Actively facing the fear that comes with trying something new reduces avoidance and increases motivation. Individuals who approach new experiences with curiosity and openness are more likely to report more fulfilling lives than those who avoid unfamiliar situations.
Engaging in something you love — solely for the sake of loving it — is increasingly rare in adulthood. Yet hobbies offer one of the few spaces where in actuality we can show up without the fear of punishment or imperfection, a luxury that a lot of work and social obligations rarely provide.
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The science behind why hobbies can improve our mental health
How to embrace beginnerhood
Starting a new hobby can be intimidating, but there are strategies to make it easier. The first is extending compassion to yourself if you’re anxious about trying something new.
Self-compassion — treating yourself with warmth and kindness in times of suffering — can be the antidote to the self-criticism you may be currently offering yourself.
If even the thought of a new hobby or new play feels intimidating, you’re not alone. Adult hobbies often feel difficult because it is asking us to show up with both skill and social confidence.
If fear of judgment is holding you back, start with something you can do alone or with one other person. And if trying alone is the fear you are holding on to, remind yourself that research shows the very thing you’re afraid to attempt may also be the thing that benefits your well-being the most.
If fear of imperfection is holding you back, seek out beginner-friendly communities or online classes where learning is the goal, not production. Set small, attainable goals for yourself to stay motivated while releasing the pressure to become perfect at it. But most importantly, give yourself permission to be bad at something without fear of critique, assessment or evaluation.
If, in beginnerhood, you feel like you have no idea what you’re doing, that’s exactly the point. It may feel challenging in the beginning, but the reward could be life-changing in the long run.
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Jenna Hepp does not work for, consult, own shares in or receive funding from any company or organisation that would benefit from this article, and has disclosed no relevant affiliations beyond their academic appointment.
– ref. Why starting a hobby as an adult can feel so hard — and why you should embrace beginnerhood – https://theconversation.com/why-starting-a-hobby-as-an-adult-can-feel-so-hard-and-why-you-should-embrace-beginnerhood-274718











